The first few chapters of 1 Chronicles is a list of genealogies.  One name after another without any particular attention paid to individuals.  Amidst the names of chapter four, a break appears in verses nine and ten to describe a man named Jabez.  This was a man whose identity from birth had been declared as one who would cause pain.  Jabez did not accept this identity and asked God to orchestrate his life so that he would walk in a different destiny.  Like Jabez, walking in our destiny begins with discarding the identity thrust upon us  by others and accepting the identity God has for us.